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About Jules
This Was Lived Before It Was Shared
I grew up in the Bahamas and spent much of my early life looking for freedom and meaning. I travelled all over the world, walked barefoot on as many beaches as possible, and searched in all the places we tend to search.
Then, in 2003, something changed.
The familiar sense of being a separate person inside my head, trying to make life happen, simply fell away.
Thought continued. Life continued. Shopping lists, mistakes and ordinary human life continued too.
But life was no longer being experienced entirely through the mind’s commentary about it.
I wrote about those years while they were still fresh. That book became A Story of a Changed Life. More than twenty years later, it still holds the beginning of everything you’ll find here.
You can read the whole thing free if you’d like to start there.
The Years After in a Life That Changed Completely
For the next ten years, I stayed very close to what had happened, through a practice that became part of everyday life. Then an even deeper practice followed, and the next ten years became much more about living it.
Relationships showed me where lovely ideas meet actual human beings. Work showed me what happens when creating something becomes tangled up with needing it to turn out a certain way for financial gain. My body changed through the menopause. People and animals I loved died. Grief had absolutely no interest in tidy organisations or explanations.
And peace was here through all of it while the dogs kept making the whole thing simpler.
Our Labrador, Benjamin
Benjamin was family. He was Tony’s heart dog and one of the great loves of our life.
When he died, the veterinary care ended. The love didn’t.
The house changed shape around his absence.
His life, and the way Tony loved him, became the beginning of Healing After Pet Loss. Benjamin also re-inspired the Wet Dog Shake™ and much of the playful, dog-shaped wisdom that eventually became #LiveLikeYourDog.
None of it was planned as a product line.
It was love continuing to move.
All About Your Joy
Over more than twenty years, the same discovery has kept showing up in different parts of ordinary life.
The mind is extraordinary. We need it to remember, plan, create and work things out. But we don’t have to live entirely inside everything it has to say.
The books, recordings and practices here grew from living that.
Some came from grief. Some came from watching what the mind does when we try to make ourselves believe something we don’t. Some came from walking the dogs and noticing how easily life gets missed while we’re busy thinking about it. And some go much deeper into the original discovery itself.
That’s what All About Your Joy has become.
You don’t need to believe any of it.
Have a look. Listen. Try something in the middle of your own life and see what’s true there.
And about the name...
This was all actually going to be called It’s All About You.
Then domains, business names and all the wonderfully unspiritual practicalities of setting something up got involved, and somewhere along the way it became All About Your Joy.
I’m rather glad it did. But the word joy was never meant to become another thing to chase.
You don’t have to feel joyful to be here. You can be grieving, fed up, laughing, overthinking, having a brilliant day or having a completely rubbish one.
The invitation underneath the name has always been much simpler: what’s here when we’re not experiencing absolutely everything through what the mind has to say about it?
That’s All About Your Joy.
Life Keeps Showing Us Ourselves.
Through Tony. Through Benjamin. Through Chester and Skye. Through people we love and people who annoy the hell out of us. Through grief. Through money. Through getting older. Through the mind wanting life to be different. Through everything.
And as we see what we’re holding onto, understand it, relax around it and let some of what we thought ourselves to be fall away, something else becomes apparent.
Love doesn’t have to be manufactured.
Compassion isn’t a technique.
Peace isn’t somewhere we eventually arrive.
And joy isn’t the reward for getting life right.
It was already here.
How Everything Fits Together
When seen from that quiet center, every pathway here naturally connects:
Balanced Affirmation Method isn’t really about affirmations. The affirmation exposes where we’re arguing with what is. Then we get to look.
Healing After Pet Loss isn’t simply grief support. Love and loss reveal the mind trying desperately to solve something it cannot solve.
#LiveLikeYourDog isn’t a cute dog challenge. Dogs keep demonstrating what life looks like before we turn every moment into a mental story.
Simply Being Here isn’t a meditation membership. It’s somewhere to keep exploring and living this in real-time.
Dissolving Into Presence goes deeper again, towards what remains when even the person trying to get somewhere becomes visible.
A Story of a Changed Life is where we can see what happened to the person who eventually made all of this.
It’s not “gentle support”. Not really nervous-system regulation. Not peace, presence, connection and joy as four separate benefits. It’s life living itself through YOU!
And it’s understood through simple seeing:
Say the affirmation. Hear what answers.
Watch a thought arrive. Did you choose it?
Notice what happens when somebody annoys you. Where does the argument actually happen?
Watch a Labrador on the beach. Are you feeling your feet?
Walk into the house after someone you love has died and notice that the mind is still listening for them.
Sit quietly enough to notice what is actually here before you name it.
Essentially, we’re saying:
“This happened. It changed the way I experienced life. I spent the next twenty years living with it, looking more deeply and seeing what it revealed through ordinary human life. These are some of the things that grew from that. Don’t believe me. Have a look for yourself.”
Keep Exploring
Where would you like to wander next?
🧠 Affirmations That Don’t Feel False – Balanced Affirmation Method →
❤️ Healing After Pet Loss – 28 Day Guided Support→
🐶 #LiveLikeYourDog – Come for a Walk →
🌿 Simply Being Here – Explore the Membership →
Or begin free in the All About Your Joy app: Apple or Google
